You had a roof over your head. Food on the table. Clothes in your closet.
So why does it still feel like something essential was missing?
There, But Not Known is a workshop for anyone who grew up emotionally alone—where your feelings had no safe place to land. We’ll explore the quiet ache this creates, how it still echoes in your adult life, and how you can begin to respond to yourself in ways you’ve always longed for.
There But Not Known
the invisible impact of growing up feeling emotionally alone
This class is for you if:
You often felt emotionally alone or unknown growing up. There were certain feelings you weren’t allowed to feel, told you were too sensitive or felt like an outsider within your family system.
You felt like you had to be the person you parents wanted you to be in order to receive love, belonging or acceptance.
You feel emotionally shut off. The idea of vulnerability feels threatening to you, but you have a very rich inner world and crave deep and meaningful relationships and connection.
Your parents did not apologize or offer repair when they messed up or hurt you.
You question your experience and pain. You feel like you don’t deserve to have your experience known because other people had it worse than you or your parents did they best they could.
Have a tendency to repress and feel badly about not genuinely being able to forgive you parents.
Talking about how your experience growing up leavings you feeling like you’re being disloyal to your parents and that internal conflict keeps you stuck, resentful and small.
You do not feel emotionally safe or able to be vulnerable with your family.
During our time together, you’ll learn:
The importance of naming your experience and how language shapes (and misshapes) your reality. We’ll explore the power of expressing your lived experience instead of adopting the narrative that your family has given to you.
What exactly is emotional neglect and what was required to form a secure attachment.
What happens when your emotions are not held or attuned to in the way that you needed. What happens when you grow up feeling like you were a burden.
How to start the gentle work of emotional home creation, where your feelings and experiences are important, believed and where it’s safe to be vulnerable.
A poignant and cathartic grief exercise that gives sadness a safe place to land.
You will walk away with clarity of how your upbringing has impacted you, compassion for your parents AND yourself, you’ll feel more understood and be able to connect the dots of your lived experience in ways you never have before.
