the motherwound.
The motherwound is a wound that exists in adult children as a result of having an emotionally unavailable or inconsistent mother.
Your mother is not able to meet your emotional needs due to her own mother wound. This 'under mothering' results in a lack of attunement, a lack of mirroring and lack of emotional nurturing and proper guidance. It leaves you feeling lost, unknown, confused and with a lack of self-worth.
If you’re new to the concept of the motherwound and motherwound healing + want to learn more, the best place to start is the Heal Your Motherwound Workshop:
If you know you have a motherwound and could benefit from support and guidance, mini-mentorship or private one-to-one mentorship may be right for you…keep reading:
moving toward healing…
Motherwounding is passed down through the generations, until one person decides to heal it. This is often the plight of the highly sensitive person in the lineage, who has sensed something being “off” for a very long time, but has never had the words to articulate their experience - until now.
Together, and through a lens of deep compassion, we work toward healing this wound you’ve carried since your childhood.
We do this through:
holding space for validating your experiences
creating a new and more accurate narrative for your childhood experience(s) - not using the one that was given to you
addressing shame, guilt and the lie of being “an ungrateful daughter” which has kept you from your truth
honouring and working through your disenfranchised grief (this is grief that’s not acknowledged by society…it’s grief with no where to go)
gentle and fierce re-mothering
developing the inner resources to deal with life’s challenges
learning to accept the reality of your mother’s limitations
redefining the relationship you have with your mother in a way that gives you voice and agency (this may mean changing the level of contact you currently have, which is entirely up to you)
What’s included:
A customized program completely tailored to your unique needs and situation
Weekly or bi-weekly zoom sessions. Each session is 60 minutes in length.
Flexible scheduling (I see clients on Tues, Wed and Thurs during regular business hours). You’ll have access to my calendar so you can book yourself in at times that work for you.
Optional Voxer (text and voice app) or email support Tuesday thru Friday to help you work through blocks, debrief from sessions and celebrate wins. It’s the time in-between regularly scheduled calls where the true opportunity for growth lies - the time where you may find yourself in a low after a high point, the time when self doubt kicks in, the time when you could really use a soft place to land. I will be one of the main people you ‘do’ life with during our time together.
Resources specifically for you including book and podcast recommendations and worksheets, if you’re a worksheet kind of person.
Who This is (Generally) A Good Fit For:
My style and experience isn’t a perfect fit for everyone, and in working with dozens of people very closely, I’ve found that the process is most transformative for those who:
Are ready to risk being uncomfortable (whether that’s the discomfort of not knowing, of being patient, of trying something new, or of making decisions that others don’t agree with)
Believe in some greater force that’s guiding us (all belief systems are welcome, but if you feel firmly that the world is devoid of animation or spirit, we likely won’t be a good fit)
Are willing to make space for this work in their lives (not just our sessions, but what you commit to doing outside of those sessions, such as changing patterns and the level of care you give yourself)
Are ready to change your family functionality in creating a lineage that’s more understanding, accountable and accepting.
Private one-to-one Motherwound Healing Mentorship:
Investment for one-to-one guidance:
Option 1
6 x 60 minute sessions, spread out over 3 months (approx 2 per month)
Investment: $400 USD per month for 3 months
Option 2
10 x 60 minute sessions, spread out over 3 months (approx 3 per month)
Investment: $600 USD per month for 3 months
this is the most requested package
Option 3
20 x 60 minute sessions, spread out over 6 months (approx 3-4 per month)
Investment: $500 USD per month for 6 months
To inquire about availability for one-on-one private motherwound mentorship, please send an email.
Knowing that instead of passing along your mother’s wounding - you can pass along your healing - is one of the most LIBERATING feelings an adult daughter can experience. You do this for yourself. You do it for future generations.
words from people like you
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"She has changed my life by helping me accept the duality of my circumstances."
The nervous feeling I had at the start of my first coaching call quickly calmed when I hear Kristy’s voice. It is soft, kind, soothing and compassionate. Kristy listened with patience and softly guided me to feel my emotions, but not become them. She has changed my life by helping me to accept the duality of my circumstances. I can grieve my estranged relatives but also know that the decision is best for me and is necessary for my mental health. Kristy has an uncanny ability to connect with those who are lucky enough to be guided by her, and shares her own experiences with candour.
Carrie W.
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"...has given me incredibly practical and effective tools for self care and healing that have changed my life!"
Kristy has a gentle and compassionate energy that made me feel safe and understood and supported. She has helped me release shame and guilt as a result of the mother wound, she has led me to greater self acceptance especially around being highly sensitive and introverted, and she has given me incredibly practical and effective tools for self care and healing that have changed my life!
Audrey G.
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"I feel like I grew a lot across this process, even more so than years of therapy and other coaching."
It was such an absolute pleasure working with Kristy. She has an incredibly calming presence and so much empathy. Going through this process, it was so helpful to have that demeanor. She was so patient and responsive to all of my questions and messages on all the channels (Voxer, email, IG). I just felt like she was truly focused on me. I feel like I grew a lot across this process, even more so than years of therapy and other coaching. I have changed and taken better control of my life and understood how to put myself first. I took some big and scary steps with her support. And I've undoubtedly improved my relationships and taken accountability for my role in conflicts.”
Former Client (name withheld for privacy)
By the end of this 75 minute workshop, you’ll have a deep level of understanding around the motherwound and why it’s impacted you so profoundly. You’ll learn 3 somatic exercises for dealing with your mother AND simple + accessible ways on how to start healing today without requiring anything from your mother (phew!).